Who's Right?

I had the opportunity to take a bath this evening and it was magical.  There were bubbles and everything.  As I was laying in the tub I could hear Dustin and Kenneth downstairs.  It was the most beautiful thing I had ever heard; they were laughing, talking, playing with her toys...I couldn't have been a happier Momma in that moment.  Being able to relax and have a break, but still hear that my baby is happy is the perfect combo for me at this time.  While lying there listening to the "goos and coos" I started thinking about my life as a mom thus far.

Something I've really been struggling with as a new mom is wanting everything to be "right."  So basically that means I want everything to be how I want it to be, because any other way is wrong.  And things being wrong stresses me out an unnecessary amount.  As I was listening to Dustin have an amazing time with our daughter I realized that there is more than one way to do things.  Does he change her diapers the same way as I do? Nope.  Does he do the laundry or the dishes the same? Absolutely not. Does he always know what to do when Kenneth is crying? Negative.  Does he sometimes make her cry when he's changing her clothes? Yep.  Does he love her with every fiber of his being? Absolutely.  At the end of the day it doesn't matter if her diaper was changed the "right" way, or if she got sun in her eyes for 3 seconds; because she's happy and she's loved.  She has 2 parents that love her unconditionally -- and that is what counts.  Dustin is an amazing partner and amazing father and sometimes I need to take a step back and realize that all those things above aren't what make an amazing person.  Sometimes I need to breathe and look at my happy baby and happy fiance and tell him he's doing an amazing job; because he absolutely is.

So here is my public vow (keep me accountable people) to let the little things go.